I had fleeting moments of thoughts about parenting lately. While watching Scarlett doing her thing yesterday, I was thinking, what and how would I react to the time when she goes on a complete meltdown.
Oh yes, mind you. I’m not deluded and I know my child is not an angel, she has her moments and I guess all children do. I have seen little kids going on a total meltdown at the mall or supermarket (yeah those) and there’s nothing their parents can do but let them scream frantically until they eventually stop. Either that, they give in or for some, drag their kids out of the place and home bound. And, for those non-parents onlookers(I must admit, I was like that when I was a non-parent, guilty as charge) would usually judge the parents and think to themselves that the parents should do something to stop the monstrous child. Well, now that I am a parent with a crazy toddler, I totally empathize and feel sorry for the parents. BECAUSE it is NOT as easy as they think it is!
To be honest, there’s nothing you can do. If you give in to them, then they would never learn their boundaries and would forever use this tactic of emotional threat to get their way, just because they know, whenever they throw a big hissy fit, they WILL get their way. Too bloody smart for their own good I reckon. To ignore them would be better but yes, it can be difficult when you’re in the public area, especially when you’re half way doing your grocery shopping with a load-filled trolley. I do however, have seen mothers, those ones that I take my hat off, abandoned their full-loaded trolley and sternly bring their screaming offspring into their car or a corner outside the supermarket and wait for them to stop wailing and give them disciplinary stern talk. I would strive to be a parent like that, stern, calm and collective and not care what other people think and managed the situation like a sane parent. I don’t know if I could though because I am the least patient person that I know (besides my husband haha - aren't we two peas in a pod!) and any sign of distress coming out of Scarlett, I'll panic and I'd immediately retrieve her out of the situation full stop. But I know by doing so is not going to help her or me so I guess this would be a test for me, or any parents for that matter!
Children are manipulative monsters and they are very much capable in doing so at a very young age of, 1! They will try to get away with breaking every single rule there is and most of the time, you want them to get away with it because you love them so very much and second of all, you just want them to shuddup, lack of a better word. Easy way out.
Parenting is the hardest job on earth. I know I have said it before that motherhood at the start is the hardest (taking that back!), but wait till you reach the parenting part! Kids are kids and with the most excellent parents, they will still have a melt down every now and then. God forbid I still remember mine (oh my poor mother!). Kids don't have the emotional perspective to take the high road in a given situation. It's our job to help them get there. It sounds tedious, and sometimes it is, but to be a part of seeing them grow and learn and turn into real people is just amazing and worth it. There will be tears along the way, but heck, when you see your child grow up to be a proper decent human being, I guess that is when you can reap the rewards of the effort you put in.
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